Article and Excerpt: [5*] Vibe Your Way To The Lay

Hey now, Jan.

It's a beautiful day here in San Francisco, once again. The sun is shining, the birds are singing. And you KNOW what that means.

Yep. It's time for some Real Social Dynamics Mailbag action, yo!

Our first question of the day comes from Luis, who has a very relevant inquiry.

*** QUESTION ***

Hey Jeffy!!
Ok, first I wanted to thank you for the time you are taking to make the newsletters possible. I just have a the suggestion that you could write about what are the keys to creating a good vibe with people. About how can I become a smooth, chilled back cool guy that attracts all sorts of people.

-Luis L.

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Well, Luis, I'm glad you asked.

Creating a good vibe, or "vibing" as we like to call it, is a skill that is absolutely NECESSARY if you plan on mastering the art of pick-up.

It's so essential, because without it, it's difficult to build thelevels of trust and comfort that are necessary for most girls to sleep with you.

What I'll do typically is, go in and open the set, deliver my HOOK, and once sufficient attraction has been built, sit back, vibe, and just ride that vibe all the way to the lay.

Usually whenever I say this, guys say, "What exactly do you say?"

The best thing I can say that will help you out is to go and challenge yourself in any conversation to find either a story or interesting bit of information about the topic at hand.

A great game to play is the association game, where I'd say the word "elephant" and you'd have to come up with a story that relates to this.

Now, you could be thinking, "there's nothing that relates to elephants." My friend, that's a limiting belief if I've ever heard one. Let's see off the top of my head, there's "elephant,ivory, Africa, hunting, tusks, zoos, and big wild animals."

Now, if you can't think of anything to say relating to these topics, then you need to work on your creative capabilities. That's one reason why people like aritists, musicians, writers and actors are so good at the game because they have wildly creative minds. They can talk about things for hours - you must understand that women love men with something to say.

So, this is something that you may need to work on.

You MUST be able to vibe with a chick. I used to go in with attract tactics blazing -- man, I had them. I was busting and making them laugh, and touching them and all type of stuff.

Yet, I didn't feel like the interactions were going anywhere.

Girls would start getting all upset and then it would go nowhere.

Then, one of my friends looked at me and said, "Dude, just talk with them...keep it fun."

I tell you that it was like heaven opened up and a ray of light shined in on me. Then, I went through a period where I just opened up chicks and worked to keep the vibe alive. After I mastered this, then I reintroduced the attract tactics, and it was GAME ON.

The key that I 've found is that if you're reaching for something to say, IT'S PROBABLY NOT ATTRACT TACTICS.

I see students who run out of conversational pieces, so they start teasing the girls or playing games. This could even be after thirty minutes into the conversation, that's the wrong way to be in my experience.

Usually, attraction is established within the first few minutes of the interaction, and then afterwards, you build massive amounts of comfort, trust, and connection.

When she feels these things and to add to this you've properly qualified her (or specifically showed her how she's unique, eg, "Wow, you know going out tonight, I didn't expect to meet someone who I thought was really cool, but that's not the case. I really feel like I connect with you , specifically the way you do X trait.), she will feel attraction toward you.

If that doesn't clear things up, I'm planning on devoting an entire issue to this very subject in the near future, so stay tuned for that!

Here's a success story from a student who took the Bootcamp in Los Angeles at the Project Hollywood Mansion:

*** SUCCESS STORY ***

jlaix:

The material you guys teach is fantastic, and the coaches explainit well so you can understand it.

The structure of the seminar is great because I thinks it's the best way to learn it. Material is unbelievable, and the instructors are fantastic at teaching it. They seem very dedicated to making sure the students get this stuff.

I've learned in incredible amount since I took the program. I totally have a different outlook on social interactions and come out looking great. Before the bootcamp, certain social situations would occur where I wouldn't know what to do, but I do now. I'm really understanding it and am starting to see the bigger picture. I can approach, open, and close which is what I did about 5 min ago.

You guys know your (stuff), and the program is organized great.

Thanks!

- Sam K., St. Paul, MN

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

You closed five minutes ago and you're writing to me? Freak!

Haaa just kidding, sort of.

I really appreciate your kind words, and I'm ecstatic to hear thatthe program has translated into success for you back in "the real world".

We make sure to take the time needed for each student to fully understand the material. If you want to spend more time on any particular subject, we explore it until you're completely satisfied that you grasp the concepts. That's really what makesour bootcamps "Individualized"; it's not necessarily the one-on-one instruction, but that commitment to make sure YOU get the value you expect and deserve from a program like this.

Jan, I'm willing to bet that you're already picturing yourself as a straight-up MACK, approaching beautiful women with total confidence in your abilities... and more importantly, converting those approaches to full-monty lays with remarkable consistency. No more statistical roulette!

It's there... you can see it.

You just need a little bit of motivation!